{"id":31102,"date":"2017-07-20T16:02:57","date_gmt":"2017-07-20T16:02:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/?p=31102"},"modified":"2017-07-20T16:03:22","modified_gmt":"2017-07-20T16:03:22","slug":"cornelia-chifu-arta-de-a-fi-bunic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/2017\/07\/20\/cornelia-chifu-arta-de-a-fi-bunic\/","title":{"rendered":"Cornelia Chifu: Arta de a fi …Bunic !"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Bunicii. De c\u00e2te ori \u00eent\u00e2lnesc acest cuv\u00e2nt \u00eemi aduc aminte ce mult \u00eemi doream s\u0103-i fi avut. Le sim\u0163eam lipsa mai ales c\u00e2nd ceilal\u0163i copii plecau \u00een vacan\u0163e la \u0163ar\u0103, la bunici. \u00centrez\u0103ream acolo o lume a fericirii, guvernat\u0103 de o dragoste f\u0103r\u0103 sf\u00e2r\u015fit, dincolo de a c\u0103rei poart\u0103 nu aveam cum s\u0103 trec. \u00cemi construisem o imagine a bunicilor cu ajutorul \u201ec\u0103r\u0163ilor de citire\u201d, cum se numeau pe atunci manualele de limba rom\u00e2n\u0103. Trebuie c\u0103 mai sunt mul\u0163i ce\u00a0 \u00ee\u015fi amintesc de \u201e icoana firavei bunici din frageda pruncie\u201d cu poala ei fermecat\u0103 unde ne pierdeam toropi\u0163i de c\u0103ldur\u0103 \u015fi lini\u015fte albastr\u0103 picurat\u0103 din cer printre crengile pomilor, ascult\u00e2nd al\u0103turi de autor basmul al c\u0103rui sf\u00e2r\u015fit nu-l prindea \u00a0niciodat\u0103 treaz. Ori de s\u00e2nul ei la fel de fermecat care ascundea toate bun\u0103t\u0103\u0163ile lumii ce trebuiau ghicite pentru a fi dob\u00e2ndite. \u015ei \u201etata-mo\u015fu\u2019\u201c cu obrajii ro\u015fii de palmele copiilor, dar sur\u00e2z\u00e2nd de fericire…<\/p>\n

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\u00cencet, \u00eencet, acestor imagini li s-au al\u0103turat accesoriile inevitabile ale b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u0163ii, nesesizate de ochii de copil: dioptriile, bastonul, durerile de \u015fale, tot felul de suferin\u0163e fizice \u015fi psihice, tot felul de proteze \u015fi opera\u0163ii care mai fac c\u00e2te un nod la firul din ce \u00een ce mai sub\u0163ire al vie\u0163ii. Perspectiva nu este dintre cele mai fericite. Este cea a unei v\u00e2rste \u00eempov\u0103rate, cu haine grele de dus.<\/p>\n

Cei care au \u00eens\u0103 \u015fansa s\u0103 devin\u0103 bunici \u015ftiu c\u0103 dob\u00e2ndirea acestei calit\u0103\u0163i este o binecuv\u00e2ntare. Este momentul c\u00e2nd energii pozitive neb\u0103nuite \u0163i se cuib\u0103resc prin ungherele sufletului \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i dau puteri noi, \u00ee\u0163i descoper\u0103 priceperi pe care nici nu b\u0103nuiai c\u0103 le ai. Devii pictor, povestitor, poet, actor, dansator, dup\u0103 cum e cazul. E\u015fti savant \u015fi cititor \u00een stele \u015fi g\u0103se\u015fti cu u\u015furin\u0163\u0103 r\u0103spunsuri la n\u0103stru\u015fnicele \u201ede ce-uri\u201d. Po\u0163i s\u0103 aduni \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eempr\u0103\u015ftii lumea \u00eentr-un cuv\u00e2nt. Este momentul c\u00e2nd, eliberat de obliga\u0163iile \u015fi responsabilit\u0103\u0163ile de p\u0103rinte, devii refugiul copil\u0103riei pe care \u00eencepi s\u0103 o retr\u0103ie\u015fti \u00een mod con\u015ftient. Este momentul c\u00e2nd, eliberat de orgoliile profesionale \u015fi personale raportul t\u0103u cu lumea se simplific\u0103 \u015fi ai dreptul s\u0103 dai \u00een mintea copiilor \u00eentr-un mod rezonabil. Abia acum \u00een\u0163elegi ce gust bun are m\u00e2ncarea f\u0103cut\u0103 din frunze \u015fi pietricele, ce minunat e s\u0103 umbli descul\u0163 prin ploaie, s\u0103 \u00eenal\u0163i castele de nisip \u015fi sim\u0163i intensitatea din exclama\u0163ia poetului: \u201ede-a\u015f mai avea, bunic\u0103, \u015fi sufletul de-atunci!\u201d.<\/p>\n

Apari\u0163ia lor, a nepo\u0163eilor, cu lumini\u0163ele din ochi \u015fi cu pa\u015fii mai \u015fov\u0103ielnici dec\u00e2t ai t\u0103i, cu dr\u0103g\u0103l\u0103\u015fenia \u015fi candoarea lor, cu nesf\u00e2r\u015fita lor nevoie de ocrotire \u015fi iubire te face s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegi, dac\u0103 \u00a0nu ai \u00een\u0163eles \u00eenc\u0103, sau dac\u0103 da, atunci \u00ee\u0163i confirm\u0103 c\u0103 un copil e una din minunile lumii, o minune fragil\u0103 care are totu\u015fi puterea magic\u0103 s\u0103 ia durerea cu m\u00e2na, s\u0103 alunge g\u00e2ndurile grele \u015fi triste\u0163ea, o minune d\u0103ruit\u0103 nou\u0103 spre a o des\u0103v\u00e2r\u015fi \u00eentru bucuria \u015fi propria \u00eemplinire. Ei devin lucrul cel mai important, \u00ee\u0163i capteaz\u0103 toat\u0103 aten\u0163ia \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i r\u0103pesc tot timpul oferindu-\u0163i drept recompens\u0103 posibilitatea de a r\u0103m\u00e2ne mereu t\u00e2n\u0103r al\u0103turi de ei, de a crede c\u0103, de dragul lor, cerul va fi mereu senin, soarele va da mereu lumin\u0103 \u015fi c\u0103ldur\u0103, iar vremea va curge mereu pe f\u0103ga\u015ful normal.<\/p>\n

Timpul, acest st\u0103p\u00e2n necru\u0163\u0103tor, cel ce rezolv\u0103 totul dac\u0103 ai r\u0103bdare, mi-a deschis p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103 poarta spre lumea fericirii guvernat\u0103 de dragostea f\u0103r\u0103 sf\u00e2r\u015fit, lumea lor, a nepo\u0163ilor \u015fi bunicilor, o lume f\u0103r\u0103 grani\u0163e \u00een care totul este posibil pentru c\u0103 acolo copilul este m\u0103sura iubirii. P\u0103trund \u00een ea de cum \u00eemi aud nepo\u0163ica intr\u00e2nd \u00een scara blocului. O a\u015ftept dup\u0103 u\u015f\u0103, obicei r\u0103mas din vremea c\u00e2nd l-am descoperit \u00eempreun\u0103 pe \u201ecucu-bau\u201d. Ne d\u0103m m\u00e2na \u015fi trecem pragul \u00een \u0162ara Minunilor, fiecare cu rolul ei: eu sunt aceea\u015fi \u201eA-i\u201d, cu accent pe fiecare silab\u0103. \u015etiu c\u0103 acesta \u00eemi va r\u0103m\u00e2ne numele pentru totdeauna, chiar \u015fi c\u00e2nd va pronun\u0163a corect toate sunetele \u015fi \u015ftiu c\u0103 n-o s\u0103 uit niciodat\u0103 rezonan\u0163a lui. Ea \u00eens\u0103,\u00a0 devine \u201emam\u0103\u201d \u015fi \u201eprin\u0163es\u0103\u201d. Chiar \u015fi cea mai grijulie mam\u0103 ar avea c\u00e2te ceva de \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at de la ea, iar prin\u0163esele… chiar \u015fi cele mai autentice ar putea lua lec\u0163ii. Timpul se opre\u015fte \u00een loc,\u00a0 \u201epraful de z\u00e2ne\u201d se cerne \u015fi transform\u0103 imagina\u0163ia \u00een realitate, formulele magice ne \u00eendeplinesc dorin\u0163ele. L\u00e2ng\u0103 ea \u00eemi beau zilnic paharul cu infuzie de \u201eap\u0103 vie\u201d \u015fi \u015ftiu ce spune Soarele c\u00e2nd intr\u0103 diminea\u0163a pe fereastr\u0103, ce ciripesc p\u0103s\u0103rile \u00een pomul din fa\u0163a geamului \u015fi ce latr\u0103 Lady \u00een curtea \u00eenvecinat\u0103. Nu \u00eemi permit s\u0103 nu \u015ftiu r\u0103spunsul la vreo \u00eentrebare pentru c\u0103 nu suport repro\u015ful din vocea ei: \u201eA-i, de ce nu \u015ftii?\u201d.<\/p>\n

\u00a0Am surprins nu de mult pe strad\u0103 o fr\u00e2ntur\u0103 de dialog dintre o feti\u0163\u0103 \u015fi mama ei:<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Mami, c\u00e2nd am fost eu mic\u0103 de ce m\u0103 duceai \u00een burtic\u0103?<\/p>\n

Mama, luat\u0103 prin surprindere \u015fi gr\u0103bit\u0103, a smucit-o de m\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi i-a r\u0103spuns sec:<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 De-a naibii!<\/p>\n

Feti\u0163a, care oricum nu \u015ftia ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 \u201ede-a naibii\u201d, a continuat:<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Pentru c\u0103 aveam picioarele micu\u0163e \u015fi nu puteam s\u0103 merg?<\/p>\n

Nu am mai auzit r\u0103spunsul mamei. Am privit cu triste\u0163e dup\u0103 ele \u015fi m-am g\u00e2ndit, bunic\u0103 fiind, dac\u0103 nu cumva unii p\u0103rin\u0163i ar trebui s\u0103 fie mai \u00eent\u00e2i bunici. \u015ei asta pentru c\u0103 bunicii au ei o art\u0103 numai a lor de a sim\u0163i \u015fi a r\u0103spunde inocen\u0163ei \u015fi sensibilit\u0103\u0163ii copiilor, o art\u0103 veche de c\u00e2nd lumea pe care nici ei nu-\u015fi pot explica cum de o st\u0103p\u00e2nesc a\u015fa, deodat\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 vreo preg\u0103tire anume, dup\u0103 cum sunt tot mai cunoscutele cursuri organizate de speciali\u015fti pentru ini\u0163ierea \u00een \u201earta de a fi p\u0103rinte\u201d.<\/p>\n

Arta de a fi bunic zace \u00een forme latente, se perfec\u0163ioneaz\u0103 de la sine f\u0103r\u0103 \u015ftirea noastr\u0103 \u015fi se conserv\u0103 de la sine. C\u0103ci, iat\u0103, de\u015fi ast\u0103zi nepo\u0163ii nu mai ascult\u0103 \u00a0basmele \u00een poala bunicii \u015fi \u00een sf\u00e2r\u00e2itul fusului ci \u00een fa\u0163a monitoarelor, iar bunicile, din ce \u00een ce mai multe \u015ftiu s\u0103 dea \u201eclic\u201d pentru ca desenul animat s\u0103 porneasc\u0103, ceva a r\u0103mas neschimbat. Duio\u015fia, bucuria \u015fi c\u0103ldura din ochii bunicilor ce parc\u0103 ar spune: \u201el\u0103sa\u0163i copiii s\u0103 vin\u0103 la mine!\u201d<\/p>\n

Duio\u015fia, bucuria \u015fi c\u0103ldura \u2013 suficiente argumente pentru a lansa \u00eendemnul \u201e cine nu are bunici s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi cumpere.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Ilustra\u0163ie: \u201eCasa Bunicii\u201d de Stela \u015eimon (Timi\u015foara) <\/em><\/p>\n

———————————-<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cornelia CHIFU<\/strong><\/p>\n

Iulie 2007 \u2013 2017<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ciudanovi\u0163a – Strasbourg<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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