{"id":39584,"date":"2018-06-23T06:28:17","date_gmt":"2018-06-23T06:28:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/?p=39584"},"modified":"2018-06-23T06:40:41","modified_gmt":"2018-06-23T06:40:41","slug":"aurelia-grosu-trecut-%e2%80%93-acceptare-si-iertare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/2018\/06\/23\/aurelia-grosu-trecut-%e2%80%93-acceptare-si-iertare\/","title":{"rendered":"Aurelia GROSU: Trecut \u2013 acceptare \u015fi iertare"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u00a0,,R\u0103nirea unui du\u015fman te coboar\u0103 mai prejos dec\u00e2t el. R\u0103zbunarea te face egalul lui. Iertarea te ridic\u0103 deasupra lui\u201d. <\/em><\/p>\n

Benjamin Franklin<\/p>\n

Sunt momente \u00een care am dori s\u0103 rescriem anumite capitole ale vie\u0163ii noastre, unele dureroase, altele ru\u015finoase, altele insurmontabile. S-a dovedit c\u0103 durerea\u00a0 emo\u0163ional\u0103\u00a0 nerezolvat\u0103 creeaz\u0103 haos \u00een sistemul imunitar. \u00cen acest sens, pacea cu trecutul nostru se impune ca o necesitate absolut\u0103. Mul\u0163i dintre noi prefer\u0103m s\u0103 ne uit\u0103m mereu \u00eenapoi, cu p\u0103rere de r\u0103u, la situa\u0163iile \u015fi oamenii nepotrivi\u0163i. Dar, dac\u0103 am schimba \u00a0felul \u00een care ne raport\u0103m la acesttrecut, am putea s\u0103-l recatalog\u0103m, \u00eentreb\u00e2ndu-ne altfel: \u201e\u00cen ce fel m-a f\u0103cut trecutul meu mai puternic? Ce calit\u0103\u0163i mi s-au dezvoltat \u00een provoc\u0103rile trecutului? Ce defecte amputut descoperi la mine? Cum am reu\u015fit s\u0103 administrez perioadele dificile? La ce ar mai trebui s\u0103 lucrez acum ca s\u0103 devin mai performant \u00een ceea ce fac? Ce \u015ftiu acum \u015fi nu \u015ftiam atunci? Pe cine a\u015f putea s\u0103 ajut cu experien\u0163a mea?\u201c\u00a0 Sim\u0163im deseori acut sentimentul de vinov\u0103\u0163ie sau ru\u015fine c\u00e2nd privim la trecutul nostru. \u00cens\u0103, analiz\u00e2nd con\u015ftient, putem face o diferen\u0163\u0103 \u00eentre vinov\u0103\u0163ie \u015fi ru\u015fine, fiindc\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd ne sim\u0163im prost fa\u0163\u0103de ceea ce am f\u0103cut, este un sentiment s\u0103n\u0103tos (vinov\u0103\u0163ie). Aproape to\u0163i oamenii avem lucruri pe care am vrea s\u0103 le schimb\u0103m \u00een vie\u0163ile noastre, dar, Dumnezeu c\u00e2nd ne-a creat, a spus: \u201dIat\u0103 c\u0103 toate erau foarte bune. \u201d(Geneza 1:31)<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0A\u015fa c\u0103 El ne vede altfel. De aici rezult\u0103 o ac\u0163iune pe care o putem implementa cu to\u0163ii la nivel mental: a ne accepta trecutul \u015fi a nu mai repeta gre\u015felile. Numai un Dumnezeu iert\u0103tor poate \u00eencuraja astfel:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201d Ferice de cel cu f\u0103r\u0103delegea iertat\u0103 \u015fi de cel cu p\u0103catul acoperit! Ferice de omul c\u0103ruia nu-I \u0163ine \u00een seam\u0103 Domnul nelegiuirea.\u201d (Psalm 31:1-2) Deci, dac\u0103 Dumnezeu ne iart\u0103, atunci putem s\u0103 ne iert\u0103m\u015fi noi, deoarece avem aceast\u0103 capacitate. Apoi, am mai avea o op\u0163iune vizavi de trecutul nostru: s\u0103 ne transform\u0103m durerea \u00een c\u00e2\u015ftig.<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Vindecarea presupune team\u0103, triste\u0163e, m\u00e2nie, frustrare, ne\u00eemplinire. Ea cere timp, dar aduce mai mult\u0103 fericire dec\u00e2t orice trecut despre care \u00ee\u0163i aminte\u015fti. Vindecarea \u015fi acceptarea trecutului poate lucra at\u00e2t de puternic, \u00eenc\u00e2t omul s\u0103 urce pe treptele \u00eenalte de dezvoltare personal\u0103 impresionante. \u201dIat\u0103, Eu fac toate lucr\u0103rile noi.\u201d (Apocalipsa 21:5)<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Misionara Helen Roseveare, \u00een timp ce lucra \u00een Congo,a fost violat\u0103 foarte brutal. Scriind despre teama ei, aceast\u0103\u00a0 femeie spune: \u201eTrebuie s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentreb: pot s\u0103-I mul\u0163umesc lui Dumnezeu c\u0103 mi-a dat aceast\u0103 experien\u0163\u0103, chiar dac\u0103 nu-mi spune de ce?\u201c De multe ori, mi-am pus \u00eentrebarea aceasta \u015fi eu: \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u201eDoamne, nu \u00een\u0163eleg de ce a trebuit s\u0103 trec mai mult de zece ani printr-o depresie cumplit\u0103, printr-o via\u0163\u0103 dur\u0103 \u015fi neimaginat de grea, prin dou\u0103 c\u0103snicii nefericite, dou\u0103 divor\u0163uri traumatizante, soldate cu dou\u0103 tentative de suicid, care au avut ca \u015fi consecin\u0163e devastatoare, c\u00e2te 5 zile de com\u0103 profund\u0103?\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 M-am \u00eentrebat, am a\u015fteptat s\u0103 v\u0103d de ce, dar, uneori, Dumnezeu alege s\u0103 tac\u0103. Din experien\u0163a mea de via\u0163\u0103, am aflat altceva \u00eens\u0103: c\u0103 El face toate lucrurile noi. Secretul nu st\u0103 \u00een r\u0103spunsuri, ci \u00een acceptare. \u00cens\u0103, s\u0103 \u015ftii, s\u0103 fii sigur, s\u0103 fii con\u015ftient c\u0103 \u00een mijlocul a tot ceea ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u015fi se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla, Dumnezeu st\u0103 \u00een control. Atunci ai dou\u0103 alternative: fie te g\u00e2nde\u015fti la asta \u015fi te hot\u0103r\u0103\u015fti s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti din nou, fie vei trece prin via\u0163\u0103 crez\u00e2nd c\u0103 nu ai avut parte de un curs corect.<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 A\u015fa c\u0103 te \u00eendemn, drag\u0103 cititorule, s\u0103 \u00eengropi trecutul t\u0103u sau tr\u0103ie\u015fti cu fantomele lui! \u00a0A readuce mereu \u00een minte vechile suferin\u0163e este ca \u015fi cum te-ai uita la acela\u015fi film, sper\u00e2nd s\u0103 aib\u0103 altfel de final.C\u00e2nd dai vina pe tine sau pe ceilal\u0163i, te legi de trecut \u015fi diminuezi stima de sine \u015fi a\u015fa sc\u0103zut\u0103. C\u00e2nd dai vina pe Dumnezeu, puterea Sa se \u00eentrerupe \u00een dreptul vie\u0163ii tale, apoi \u00eendoiala vine \u00een locul \u00eencrederii, apare am\u0103r\u0103ciunea \u015fi, odat\u0103 cu ea, apare \u015fi cinismul. C\u00e2nd dai vina doar pe al\u0163ii, m\u0103re\u015fti distan\u0163a dintre ei \u015fitine \u015fi elimini singura op\u0163iune care ar putea func\u0163iona pentru a te regla emo\u0163ional \u2013 iertarea. C\u00e2nd te \u00eencrezi \u00eens\u0103 \u00een Dumnezeu, atunci doar El te poate reabilita, vindeca, elibera \u015fi ierta. Dumnezeu promite c\u0103:\u201d Iat\u0103, Eu fac toate lucrurile noi.\u201d (Apocalipsa 21:5)<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00cen cazul vie\u0163ii mele, El a f\u0103cut toate lucrurile noi, m-a vindecat de depresie, m-a ajutat prin oameni competen\u0163i, m-a dus pe un drum nou \u015fi mi-a dat misiunea s\u0103 scriu, ceea ce fac cu mare pasiune pentru ceilal\u0163i oameni. Iart\u0103 \u015fi mergi mai departe!<\/p>\n

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Aurelia GROSU<\/strong><\/p>\n

Gala\u0163i <\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 (Din cartea \u201d Pic\u0103turi de suflet \u00een contul \u00een\u021belepciunii tale\u201d, 2014)<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00a0,,R\u0103nirea unui du\u015fman te coboar\u0103 mai prejos dec\u00e2t el. R\u0103zbunarea te face egalul lui. Iertarea te ridic\u0103 deasupra lui\u201d. Benjamin [&hellip<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-39584","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-articole"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39584","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39584"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39584\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":39587,"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39584\/revisions\/39587"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39584"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39584"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marianagurza.ro\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39584"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}